Category: Dating and Relationships
I was once talking to a friend from college about her boyfriend of a few months. I questioned whether she thought they would stay together over the summer and into next year, and what would happen if they broke up. She was very uncomfortable and eventually told me that she didn't want to think about her relationship ending. I found this pretty weird; did she think she was going to mary the guy? Having never had a real girlfriend before in my life, I guess it's just something I have to experience myself. Nevertheless I can't help that it's this same feeling which prevents people from admiting to themselves what they don't like about their current partner. This is only a suspician (more accurately an assumption) since though I constantly see people talking about how perfect their partner is until they break up (afterwhich s/he becomes the jerk) I don't know if they tell themself or their partner what might be wrong with him/her. Is this true?
hmmm can my exhausted self ramble anything that makes sense here? i think that over time i have matured to the point that i realize that a relationship of say a month really can't be considered as something that will last forever. when i was younger, i will admit that i thought i loved some of my boyfriends and that we would be together forever. i learned over time to slow down and take it one day at a time. so on this, in my opinion, i don't think that such a short lived relationship is something i would consider lasting forever. it takes time to get to know someone. but i will say that i've had short relationships such as 2 months where at the time i hoped it wouldn't end anytime in the near future. but i didn't go as far as it lasting forever.
as for the talking shit on an ex, i have also learned over time that this is kind of stupid to do. i mean i will share the bad times, but also the good times. not all relationships end in disasters. some just end because the 2 people aren't meant for eachother.
honesty and communication are a huge part of a relationship. and i personally do my best to keep the communication going.
Amen pipi!
Here's some of my rambleing views.
In some kaces the person in question is most likely afrade that just talking about there relationship ending might OMG make it end. When you are in a relationship with someone you really cair about, everything can be worrieing. You no, like did I say something rong? Or another, does his mother like me?
That kind of thing. But I think this person that you were talking about really needs to wake up and smell the rozes. If this relationship ends it ends and there's nothing that can be dun to change the facts and it was just not ment to be.
if it goes on to become something else great, but don't make assumpsions espeshely this early on. You will lirn a hole lot of stuff about your bf or gf afew months down the rode, habbits and dependencies that just don't show right away. Take things slow and keep your nows out of the clouds.
I hope I helped and stayed kind of on topic. smile.
Tracey